Maybe This All Had To Happen

I wasn't sure that I had the emotional strength to make this trip. The family reunion I attended this weekend in Denver was long awaited by many relatives but it came at a time when I had many family obligations; daughter married in July, son marrying in October, and husband working out of town, with the sad passing of my mother-in-law dying and also being on a budget, I regretfully declined the family get together. Another time I thought. 

This also would be an interruption of my daily schedule, a predictable routine that gives me comfort and security. I depended on this to give me control over my unpredictable life.  By attending this reunion, it would give me a chance to deepen my relationships with my family, strengthening our ties because there have been many years and disconnections over time.  Did I have the emotional strength to make this trip? 

As I sat on this aircraft heading home, humming along in the skies, it dawned on me that maybe this all had to happen.

I prayed to God for guidance, I trust that He knows what’s best for me. Things turned around fast when an unexpected invitation came in a text from my sister that she wanted me to stay with her and use her airline points to travel free for this family reunion. What generosity! I sensed that my sister was doing everything to make sure that I would attend. I would complete the attendance of having our sisters together. I was smart enough to take this as a sign and trust the process so I accepted it, not having the security and comfort of making my own plans.

My sister, Lois explained the itinerary as an adventure because we would be tagging along as in a nomads fashion, moving in different locations without the means of our own transportation, depending on someone else to help us with our accommodations.  

Lois and I were taken to our hotel for our one night stay, then off for two nights in a RV with her daughter’s family and the last night with her son’s family. The plans were sketchy with the weekend filled with parties and hiking, catching up with my sisters’ families. Without being in charge and trusting others to take care of us, it was a challenge to surrender control, a comfortable place for me to be! Taking a deep breath as my sister Sharon grabbed my arm, we walked into the room to greet our family, and we were met with a roaring cheer of acceptance and love! Great memories were made with my clan!

Surrendering and accepting this nomad situation was necessary to receive in my heart the love I felt I lost a long time ago, the family security that I left behind and now depending on them to take care of me was necessary for me to receive the lesson. Relinquishing control and enjoying the spontaneity with my family gave me a sense of comfort, of belonging and feeling loved at a deeper level, taking me outside of my box, moving forward in my life. 

Maybe this all had to happen this way.

3 Ways To Motivate You To Move Forward

Feeling overwhelmed, trying to force an outcome? 

Are you frustrated when things don’t happen as quickly as you think they should?

It may be necessary to simply be with the discomfort of not knowing.  The answer will come when it is time and it will arrive with certainty when it has no charge to it.  

It is human nature to be uncomfortable with not knowing the outcome.  Practice being aware when there is a gap between your experiences and your response to them.  

Pause. Breathe. Meditate.  This will bring clarity and understanding to the situation.  If you are reacting out of frustration, you are limiting yourself to all the possibilities.  Notice whether you are reacting automatically or whether you are taking the time to respond.  

If there is any doubt, the best way to respond is to wait!  

Trust the process and go with the flow.

If you understand, things are just as they are; if you do not understand, things are just as they are. ~ Zen proverb

Are you looking for yourself where you are not? 

Are you defining yourself through validation from your accomplishment or are you seeking approval from others?

This is based on the illusions that you are incomplete and you need something from the outside to be whole.  

Are you getting a sense of who you are from something or someone on the outside? 

We are innately born with everything we need to fulfill our divine purpose.  

It is not about being perfect, it is about being whole.  

When we ignore our feelings and our intuition, we avoid our true essence of who we really are.  Exploring our interests, our wants, identifying what makes us tick, could bring clarity by discovering our Greatness.  

Listening to that voice from within, following our gut feeling can be a fun exploration.  

Is there something you always wanted to try but didn't have the time or the guts to do? 

Maybe the time has arrived.

By yielding you may obtain victory. ~ Ovid

Why is this happening to me?  

Paralysis through analysis

You may try to analyze what and how in order to understand why you can’t move forward.  

You might be getting wrapped up in trying to understand why this is happening. 

Creating doubt by getting absorbed in trying to figure this out and waiting for an insight can become an excuse to avoid action.  

You may not want to accept the reality of your circumstances because you haven’t yet figured out the rhyme and reason of it.  

Nevertheless, you have an obligation to yourself to accept where you are at in the present moment.  

Doing the next right thing is all that might be necessary.  

It may also be a time to reflect why this particular lesson is coming up so you can let go of it.  

Are there some buried resentments, ‘should haves’, or unforgiving feelings that you are ready to let go of?  

Taking care of yourself can aid in the healing process. H.A.L.T. is an acronym for Hungry, Angry, Lonely or Tired.  

It is a great benefit of the most basic areas in which you may neglect your own well-being.  

The awareness will likely come when you’re in a place of calmness and then you might then say, “Oh, now I see why that happened.”

Life can only be understood backwards, but must be lived forwards. 

~ Soren Kierkegaard

Opening The Door To Your Purpose

Are you feeling a restlessness stirring deep inside?

Are you questioning your old belief systems and tossing them back?

Are you looking into the spiritual realms for a greater sense of purpose, direction and meaning of life?

Change is transporting you and with the right mindset you can open the door to the possibilities of discovering your purpose. Change the way you think, change the way you perceive life and you’ll be able to change your life for the better. You might question your own sanity, yet there is a knowingness deep within that comes reassuring you that you’re on the right path.

There is fortitude deep within every human being, supporting us and moving us forward bringing emotional and physical health. We’re born with a will to survive, a will to heal and a will to be happier and feel good again. When you look back on your life, you can see that you survived stronger and smarter through all the changes. Trust that this transition is already working to lead you into a brighter future. Maybe you’ve been fired; it’s likely that your dream career is on the horizon. Ending a relationship?  It’s possible that a more desirable relationship is just around the corner.

Think of yourself as a boat on the river; when you resist change, it’s as if you’re rowing upstream against the current, when everything that’s right for you is downstream. The current could be the strength you need to propel you into the next step or it can work against you, resisting new unimaginable prosperities. Change becomes hard when you try to get back upstream to where you once were instead of flowing with the River of Life. Cling to the rocks or rowing vigorously back upstream makes change tough, making life more difficult. 

In time, we can easily adjust to our new ways of living, accepting the abundance, leading us to opening the door to our purpose. 

It Begins

My destiny rests with me. Reaching my 60^th birthday, it dawned on me that this is a perfect time to burst out and examine my life.

Adventuring in Mid Life does not depend on anyone else. At this moment in my life, I am discovering the treasure of my heart and bringing to light my destiny.   

I will adorn my life with serenity, passion and adventure. Life is meant to explore, discovering my spirit. I will dive in and explore with a new perspective, having all the experiences and lessons before me to get to know what really makes my heart sing.

Looking for deeper insights, achieving balance and overall joy on a deeper level sowing the seeds of my fate.

Go confidently in the direction of your dreams, Live the life you have imagined.     - Henry David Thoreau